It’s breast cancer awareness month. I may be the only female this really bugs. Excuse me? Can we come up with a better term? Who ISN’T aware of breast cancer? Why don’t we have a breast cancer healing month? And why don’t we look at all possibilities, not just heavily funded medical possibilities? I think focusing on healing is much more beneficial than just being aware of breast cancer. Women are aware and terrified of breast cancer and that is what I want to discuss today. Unwarranted fear. I know you may be thinking, are you out of your mind? Shouldn’t I be afraid of breast cancer? Who wants to go through something awful like that? And I say, I know. My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer at the age of 46, had a mastectomy, and left this earth by her own hand only six months later. Years later, within one year of each other, my paternal aunt and grandmother passed away from breast cancer. Fear? You are right, I know about fear. I guess I should say I knew about fear. Because I became so terrified that I literally saw a path in my mind and at the end of the path, was a sign marked breast cancer.
Slightly previous to and around the same time of some of these events, I began having routine thermograms. What’s a thermogram you say? Go here:
My thermography results were becoming more and more troubling and I was just this side of panic. But, also in the midst of my panic and rising concerns, I came across EFT. I learned it, I applied it. I became a living, breathing, experiment of EFT. I started using it with others. I saw amazing unexplainable results. My annual thermograms were recommended to six months. Even so, it was almost ten months before I went back. And when I did, I was curious about my new results. They had gone back toward the safe zone, and I was back to annual exams. Hmmm. Something to think about. I had not changed one other single solitary thing about my life. I had just added tapping. In fact, in some ways, many things were worse. I wasn’t exercising, I wasn’t eating true to my beliefs, etc. The funny thing is, I never directly tapped on fear of breast cancer. I tapped on traumatic memories around breast cancer, and only quickly addressed breast issues before that appointment when the values began coming down.
I was contemplating this out loud one day with my husband and he made the obvious connection: that I had been using EFT for months for every traumatic memory, every bothersome thing, and the generalization effect had actually happened.
Two years later, my test results via thermography are better than even when I started. My risk level has gone from the high of 3 that it was, all the way back down to 1. (It can go as high as 5) And not only have I worked on breast issues, self worth issues, body image, general stress, and I could go on….but that little sign at the end of the path? Obliterated. I have NO FEAR of cancer. But I have to remind myself to be compassionate toward those that do fear it and for seemingly good reasons. Like family history.
It is my decision not to have mammograms. Maybe that is an explanation best saved for another day. But, stay tuned. Because in a few days, I will post the Iron Clad Rules of Cancer and how EFT can be a big part in preventing cancer and giving someone who has been diagnosed with cancer, tools for total peace of mind. Stay tuned. You don’t have to be afraid of cancer. I’m not. And you don’t have to be either.
I often get asked the question in my classes or other places, what if I want to work on something, but I don't want everyone to know about it? That's definitely a valid question. Some things you don't mind sharing, but there are other things, that you just really would rather keep private. Relationship issues, intimate issues, things that are embarrassing, frightening, and so on. So, if you are someone who can go to an inexpensive class on a regular basis, like I teach, how do you make the most of it? Or if you want to do as a I previously suggested and share a session via conference call with friends.
Borrowing Benefits. If you want to read A LOT more about Borrowing Benefits, see the excellent article here. The basic idea is that while you watch someone else work on their issue or emotions, you participate and tap with them. Before you begin, you write down the name of or event that you want to work on with the matching 0-10 intensity. While you tap with the other person, whether live, by phone, or on video, you tap and use the words THEY ARE SAYING. And while you tap along, your issue begins to recede and resolve. Pretty cool huh? I think so.
There is a possibility that while tapping along, you can briefly get worse or be triggered, but most of the time, your issue will simply begin to fade. As the person tapping checks in on whether their issue is resolving, you check your intensity. If it is gone, pick a new one. If not, just keep going. Your subconscious knows what is going on in the background and will do the work for you.
I've tapped along with almost every single EFT DVD there is. And as I have, some things that I thought were my personality, but now I know weren't, have simply corrected themselves, never having been directly addressed. So, if you have no dollars, and you really think you need help, google every EFT video you can find. Go to youtube and tap along. I think Borrowing Benefits is one of Gary's best gifts/discoveries in the EFT arsenal. Tap along. It'll do you a world of good.
Approximately 10 years ago, on a freezing July night, the cold, hard, truth hit me like a freight train.
NO ONE WAS COMING TO MY RESCUE.
On our bedroom floor, my wife was giving birth to our son, he’d come so quickly that we had just called the hospital to tell them we were on our way. But we never made it out of the house.
The complication was he was breech, and when he had come out to his shoulders, the contractions stopped and he stopped coming. My wife and I stayed calm, but for all my trying I just could not get his head out.
While this was happening my sister had called an ambulance, but we were stuck in this position for about 15 minutes before they arrived and were able to fully deliver him.
What I didn’t realise was that the umbilical cord was obstructed and our baby was suffering asphyxiation. When he was finally born our boy was blue, and his heart rate was 40 beats per minute when it should have been 140 beats per minute.
As the paramedics worked on our son, pumping oxygen into his lungs, with a hand pump, I went outside to talk to God.
I'd been studying faith at a local church for a while, and had achieved some small successes. One of the scriptures that has always impressed on me the most was Mark 11:24 “Whosoever shall say unto this mountain, be though removed and be though cast into the sea, and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he says shall come to pass. He shall have whatsoever he says.”
This scripture told me I had to take responsibility in the situation, and not wait for something to happen, but make something happen.
I felt strength flow through me as I reminded God what this scripture said. I told God that I was not going to ask for anything but that I was going to take control of the situation.
I had a strong belief that parents are supposed to protect their children, not just naturally but spiritually as well.
I also could not accept the idea that a child would be born just to die ten minutes later.
After my conversation with God I felt fearless and determined. When I went back into the house the main paramedic pulled me aside and asked me if he could have a word with me. With a grim look on his face and a professional tone in his voice he told me, “I don’t think the little blokes gonna make it.”
This was a defining moment, I refused to become afraid and accept his opinion!
Looking directly into his eyes I replied “No he is going to be fine.” I know I must have had a look that said I meant business, because the paramedic backed off immediately with a quick reply “Yer Okay”.
It’s amazing how quickly people will change their mind and come into agreement with you when you are clear and absolute about something.
Upon entering the hospital I repeated with conviction “No he’s going to make it, He’s gonna be just fine,” to any one that spoke to me.
As I stood back and watched Doctors and Nurses buzzing around my son in a hive of activity, things became surreal.
A smiling woman in a white coat approached, “You know when they called in, I thought they’d be bringing in a dead baby, but it’s a miracle, they’ve done a great job, he’s looking good.”
Of course our baby did survive.
But the next day he was placed in intensive care. At a meeting with the head of intensive care, the Doctor explained to us that our baby was “fitting” and this was most likely because he would have suffered brain damage and organ damage due to the lack of oxygen he received during birth. At this point, once again I reassured the Doctor, “No, don’t worry, he’s going to be just fine.” Because of what we had just been through, I thought there’s no way I’m going to start backing off now.
About this time we were interviewed by the hospital psychologist, to see how we were handling the fact our baby would be severely handicapped. After the meeting my wife sneaked a peek at the psychologist’s clipboard and notes. Amoung other things, my wife noticed the statement “This couple is not prepared for failure.” It was not written as a positive statement, but I found it incredibly empowering.
The ward is divided into ten sections. Section one for the sickest babies and our son was in this section. Some babies are in section one for months and some never get well. However, within two days our son was in section three and in three days he was in section nine. Within another three days we were taking him home in absolutely perfect condition.
Since that time I have pushed myself to learn as much as possible about this incredible power that saved my son’s life.
What I have learnt I have applied to many different areas of my life, I have used this power to transform my near bankrupt, failing business into a thriving prosperous company that has allowed me an income that has totally changed my lifestyle.
I have seen this power make cancer and arthritis completely disappear from people’s bodies.
I have seen it transform children with learning difficulties and sleeping problems into peaceful intelligent, happy kids.
I have seen it do many incredible, wonderful things in relationships, and every area of life. I believe this power controls the world, and I believe it exists for the benefit of mankind.
I truly believe it’s the answer to every obstacle we face.
“And you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.” John 8:32
If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and dupbraideth not; and it shall be given him. But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.
Fear is opportunity knocking. Too often we hide behind the door and quiver. It is when we open the door and shine the light of faith into the shadows, that our fears are banished. Only then we learn that fear conquered is faith revealed.