“EFT doesn’t work for me”
Every once in awhile I run across someone who says they have diligently tried EFT and it just doesn't work for him or her. I have only met two people in six years that have found no benefit to EFT. One was a hurried appointment who I wanted to prove something to and he was also highly skeptical. If I'd had more time and a chance to really let go of the outcomes and do some good investigative work, I might only be talking about one. But, that's ok. NOTHING works 100% of the time. I can accept that. But EFT has such an amazingly high response rate. If that's true, why in the world might it not work?
There are several explanations as to why EFT may be taking longer than necessary or why it isn't working at all. I want to focus on massive psychological reversal. But before I do, here are the quick impediments to great results.
Like pieces of a puzzle, there may be many aspects to an experience. And while you may get relief from the trauma of a car accident by tapping on the headlights you saw just before impact, it may take also addressing the fight before you got in the car, the screams at the time of impact, the fear that coursed through you, and your inability to now drive at night. (Just for examples).
Sometimes things take time. And while it is NOT uncommon to get amazingly fast results with EFT, sometimes it just takes a little extra work. It may take tapping on the issue several times a day for several days or weeks. If you begin to forget to tap on the issue, check in. Chances are it may be gone.
Being too general
The more specific you are, the better. Tapping on "even though I was abused as a child" is not nearly as specific as "even though my father slapped me across the face when I was 7." See the difference? Even more so, "even though I was so afraid of my dad because he slapped me across the face when I was 7."
Similar to an allergy, it is any substance in, on, or around you that for whatever reason disrupts your energy flow. Common ones include sugar, wheat, tea, alcohol, nicotine, corn, caffeine, perfume, herbs, dairy, electromagnetic fields, or something that is unique to you and your system.
Any serious disease, depression, addiction, or chronic negative thinking.
There is not enough room in a blog post to go into this. But it is basically when your subconscious hides the reasons from you as to why you are not getting better. There may be secondary gains for NOT getting better. So, you may really want to lose weight, but you don't realize you have deep feelings that it is not safe to lose weight. Perhaps you may have had unwanted advances. Perhaps you were ridiculed as a child. There could be any number of reasons. But for all intents and purposes, if you are psychologically reversed, it's like having the batteries in backwards. You can push all the buttons you want, but nothing is going to happen.
Even if you know all of the above, and you know how and have tried to remedy with advanced EFT techniques, there may be a very few cases where it is still difficult to get results. One thing to try is called Collarbone breathing. You will have to take my half day or whole day class for that demonstration. The other is MASSIVE Psychological Reversal. The setup statement on the karate chop spot or sore spot is designed to correct PR. It only takes a few seconds and almost always works. Sometimes it is NOT needed because a full 40% of people are not reversed. That's good news.
But there are some who seem to have a brick wall around their issues and there is no way to get past it. That is MASSIVE PR. So, what can you do? EFT Master's Carol Look and Lindsey Kinney both have ways of getting around it that I have read through and will summarize.
The most common reasons are not wanting to, not being safe to, not deserving of, not wanting to forgive. The answer. Tap on those things. You might do several rounds on the following statements.
Even though I don't really want to get over this…
Even though it's not safe for me to…
Even though I don't deserve to…
Even though I can't forgive ______ for what they did…
Even though I don't know who I'll be without…
Even though I won't have any more excuses…
Even though I don't know what normal feels like…
Even though I'm afraid to let it go…
Even though there may be a reason I don't know….
Once you have tried these kinds of phrases (and you may know right away which ones are right on), you can then return to normal tapping phrases for the thing you are working on. Give it a try and see if that doesn't get the results you've been hoping for.